Pretty Girls Who ServeThe Becoming Season: the road to the Pouring.
Nobody is poured the day she walks in. A woman is seen, welcomed and paired; she becomes rooted, makes her covenant and serves; then she is prepared, and then she is poured.
- 01She is seen
Pretty Girl Week. She meets the chapter.
Who: The chapter - 02She is welcomed
The PGWS Pink Brunch.
Who: The chapter - 03She says yes
She activates her $25 PGWS national membership through the P31 Portal (that is what puts her on the official roster), signs the Sisterhood Book and joins the national GroupMe. She is now a Becoming sister.
Who: Her, with the Membership Chair - 04She is paired
The Membership Chair pairs her with a Prepared sister, her mentor, and gives her a Prayer Sister for the season.
Who: Membership Chair · Recommended practice - 05She becomes rooted
The P31 Becoming Academy, and the Sisterhood training: she learns the Creed, the Commitment, the Call to Order, the hymn, our names and our symbols.
Who: Her, with her Prepared sister - 06She makes her covenant
She signs the P31 Covenant at prettygirlswhoserve.org/covenant: the Esther Funds Foundation’s Bylaws and Code of Conduct, the PGWS Member Covenant, and how we carry the name, understanding that misrepresenting PGWS or EFF can lead to removal, with a fair process.
Who: Her, with her Prepared sister - 07She serves
She serves beside the chapter at a Service Saturday before her Pouring.
Who: Service Chair · Recommended practice - 08She is prepared
Her Prepared sister gives her a Season Scripture. In the last week, sisters write her Perfumed Letters, which her Prepared sister keeps for the Preparation Room.
Who: Her Prepared sister, the sisterhood · Recommended practice - 09She is ready
The President and Membership Chair confirm the five signs of readiness, invite her two weeks ahead, and send the class list to Nationals.
Who: President, Membership Chair · Recommended practice
Five signs she is ready
- Her $25 national membership is active.
- She has finished the P31 Becoming Academy and the Sisterhood training.
- She has signed the P31 Covenant.
- She has served at a Service Saturday.
- Her Prepared sister says she is ready.
Her invitation, two weeks ahead
- The date, time and place, and how long it lasts.
- What to wear (Nationals sets the dress code).
- A private question: any allergy or sensitivity to fragrance or oils?
- Guests are welcome; the Preparation Room is for sisters only.
The week of the Pouring
- Rehearse every part with every role, using this page’s rehearsal mode.
- Count the materials for the size of the class.
- The Scribe writes each new sister’s name in the program and readies The Book.
- Prepared sisters collect the Perfumed Letters.
- Ask permission before any photo or video of a sister is posted.
Seen, welcomed and rooted come from the PGWS member journey (Pretty Girl Week, the Pink Brunch, the P31 Becoming Academy); the $25 national membership is PGWS’s roster rule. The other steps are drafted from our traditions for Nationals to confirm.
Who does what.
Six roles. Tap “Rehearse my part” to walk through only the moments that are yours.
Hosts, charges, pins.
In parts 3, 7, 9, 12, 13, 16Leads prayer, Scripture, and the anointing oil.
In parts 5, 6, 8, 13Opens the hymn.
In parts 13, 14Keeps The Book (registry).
In parts 10, 13Each mentors one new sister (“her Becoming sister”); they bless and stole their sister.
In parts 1, 2, 4, 8, 12, 13, 15, 17Walk forward, receive, sign, commit.
In parts 1, 2, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 15, 17Set the room. Count the table.
Soft pink + candlelight; cream and ruby accents; satin on the table. Soft instrumental underscore throughout.
Saved only in this browser. Used for the counts below, the program, The Book page and the welcome cards.
On the table for 4 sisters
Tap what you have. Keep spares: a pin, a rose and a taper more than you need.
The order of service. Every part, every time.
Seventeen parts. Nothing may be left out. Keep The Pouring and The Pinning unhurried: they are the moments she’ll remember forever.
Each Prepared sister brings her Becoming sister forward. The Chaplain places a drop of oil of myrrh on the new sister’s hands. Her mentor says quietly: “You are prepared, and you are blessed.” This is the heart of the ceremony — unhurried, one sister at a time.
The Presider pins the Ruby Reminder over each new sister’s heart: “Not because you are a ruby — but to remind you that you are worth far more than one.” Her mentor drapes the satin stole and hands her a white rose.
You may add, never take away
Sisters may also share their P31 experience and testimonies, and chapters may have dancers or special music. Add them between parts; everything above must still be done.
Good places for them: after The Charge (7), or after The Hymn (14). Recommended practice
Holy, warm, and always safe.
The Pouring is a welcome, not a test.
PGWS non-negotiableNo hazing, humiliation, forced prayer, loyalty tests, secret punishments, or unofficial initiation practices.
Invitations, never tests
Nothing in the Becoming Season is secret, humiliating, or used to rank sisters. If a sister can’t finish a step in time, her Prepared sister walks with her to the next Pouring.
Her hands, her yes
The oil goes on her hands only. If she has a sensitivity, the Chaplain lays a hand over hers and prays the words without oil.
The scent is offered
At the First Act of Service, spray the wrist or the stole if she prefers. Ask before, not during.
Testimony is a gift
No one is asked to tell her story. Sisters who want to share, share.
Candles and satin
Keep tapers upright and away from stoles and hair; a sister holds a snuffer and water nearby. Follow the venue’s fire rules (some campuses allow only battery candles).
Photos with permission
Ask before posting any sister’s image, name or testimony.
The non-negotiable is from the PGWS Chapter Launch & Leadership Manual. The care notes are recommended practice drafted by EFF for Nationals to confirm.
Rehearse it the week of.
One part at a time on a phone or a projector, in big type: who moves, what happens, and every word. Use ← → or tap.
Print it. Share her day.
Built from the plan in part III. Each prints on its own.
A welcome card for each new P31
For her story on the day she is poured: “Officially a Pretty P31 woman. 💧🩷” with her name, the chapter and the date. Send it to her after the ceremony.
Add the class’s names in part III and a card button appears for each sister.
Ready to pour?
Seven questions for everyone with a role. 0 of 7.
“six months with oil of myrrh, and six months with sweet odours”
Esther 2:12 (KJV)Rooted and poured out. 💧🩷